10 parenting mistakes that cause kids to get disgusted with school
Children, like no one else, trust the words of adults. They do not yet have critical thinking, they do not know how to react to reality. They take all their knowledge about the world around them from their parents, grandmothers, grandfathers, etc. Therefore, we have a great responsibility.
It is the parents who shape the child’s attitude to school. Later, when he settles among his classmates, he can decide for himself whether he likes school or not. But the attitude that his parents conveyed to him also plays a huge role.
It doesn’t matter if you loved school as a child or hated it, it is important to make your child like it there. He will go there for the next 9-11 years, and it will be great if these years will be remembered as the best. And for this it is important to form the right attitude towards school.
Often it is our negative statements, which children believe, help to cause hatred of the entire school system, including teachers.
- 10. Never Say Bad About School
- 9. You can not criticize the teacher in front of children
- 8. Do not get angry if the child was asked homework
- 7. You can not demand special treatment of your child
- 6. You can not overload the child
- 5. You should not choose a “strong” school if the child is uncomfortable there
- 4. Parents should not “get hung up” on doing lessons
- 3. A child should be punished for poor performance
- 2. For good studies, you cannot give gifts or, moreover, pay money
- 1. A child is not eligible to receive a bad grade
10. Never Say Bad About School
The child’s attitude to her is formed long before he crosses the threshold of school. Try not to ruin his first impression.
Even if your memories of school are not as rosy as you would like, things may turn out differently for your child. He has his own class, his teachers, even his era, his own time, so there is no need to compare.
If you want him to be comfortable, try not to speak negatively about school. And this applies not only to memories.
After September 1, you may be outraged by something in the school system. Never talk about it in front of your child. You cannot undermine the authority of the school and teachers in his eyes, otherwise how will you demand that he obey the rules? Try to say only good things about them.
Your childhood and adolescence, whether you like it or not, were associated with school, i.e. you should have good memories. It is worth telling the child about this. Remember how you played during breaks, how everyone went to museums together, remember funny incidents, show your child your old albums. A positive attitude will help him get used to school faster and make friends with the guys himself.
9. You can not criticize the teacher in front of children
Now every parent has the opportunity to choose a school for a child. It is not necessary to go to study by registration. If you consciously came to this school, to this class, what is the point of being indignant? Then they would have chosen another school and another teacher.
If there are problems, misunderstandings, they need to be addressed. But in a peaceful way, by talking, without undermining the authority of the teacher. If you think that he is incompetent, you cannot say this, especially in the presence of a child. You will forget about it, but he will not, and he will go to this class for a few more years and receive knowledge.
How can he study normally, treat the teacher with respect if he is sure that he is a bad teacher? But it is in the primary grades that the foundation of education is laid; without the ability to read and count well, the child will not be able to study well.
8. Do not get angry if the child was assigned homework
It can be difficult for children to adapt to school. Therefore, in the first year of study, they are not given grades, they are given a minimum of homework. But if your teacher thought that the guys should study after school, do not argue with that.
Experienced teachers know how many lessons can be given to children. Moreover, they cannot deviate from the school curriculum. If you don’t like it, it seems too complicated, you had to take care of it in advance, choose another school.
Nobody wants to overload the children; neither teachers nor the headmaster can have such goals. You should not tune your child and encourage him not to do his homework, because this will make it difficult for him to socialize.
7. You can not demand special treatment of your child
It is for you he is special, the best and the smartest. But a teacher shouldn’t have favorites. No matter how many children there are in the class, he is obliged to devote time to everyone.
Never demand that your child be praised, constantly asked, and singled out. Remember, this will not end well.
You work with children to make them smarter, to develop and broaden their horizons, not for praise or grades.
6. You can not overload the child
The first year of schooling for a child is very important. Adaptation takes place, he gets used to school, new friends, teacher. During this time, it is very important that he feels good in the new environment.
But sometimes it is the parents who interfere with this. They enroll him in many different circles. As a result, the child constantly walks tired, does not get enough sleep, begins to lag behind in the school curriculum.
If you see that he is not keeping pace, your task is to reduce the load. The child should have a happy childhood with games, walks in the fresh air. Mugs are also needed, but so that these activities are enjoyable, and not overwhelmed.
5. You should not choose a “strong” school if the child is uncomfortable there
Of course, we all would like to raise smart, successful children. But everyone has their own abilities. Someone is well versed in mathematics, so it makes sense to send him to the appropriate school. Someone loves to sing or dance, it is desirable to develop him in this direction, and not torment him with formulas and theorems.
The school should not be “prestigious”, the school should correspond to the child, he should be comfortable in it, so that he can develop, learn with pleasure, and not under the duress.
4. Parents should not “get hung up” on doing lessons
It is not uncommon to hear unhappy statements from parents that their children do not want to do their homework. But, if you think about it, there is nothing surprising in this. And who wants to do boring or boring work? Therefore, this behavior of the child is natural.
You should not scold him and reproach him for this. By doing so, you will only inculcate hatred of the school. If it is difficult for a child, he needs help. And encourage self-completion of lessons.
3. A child should be punished for poor performance
A relationship between parents and children, where one judge and the other the defendant, will do nothing good.
Remember that the first years of school for a child is a challenge. And during this period, the house for him should become a kind of “rear”, a place where you can come to calm down and relax.
If you turn him into a place of hostilities, this will not increase his academic performance, and the psyche of the child can seriously spoil.
2. For good studies, you cannot give gifts or, moreover, pay money
Thus, you inspire the child that everything in the world is for sale. We all learn something throughout our lives. And we do not demand money for this. Mom cooks and cleans the house after work, and no one pays her for it. Dad or grandmother raise children for free, go shopping, etc.
We receive a salary because themselves agreed to do this work for money. And study is something else, it is self-development that is necessary for the child himself.
1. A child is not eligible to receive a bad grade
There are thousands of reasons that explain why he suddenly “slipped to threes.” Maybe he didn’t understand some topic, maybe he was ill for a long time and fell behind his classmates, maybe he was tired or fell in love.
There can be many reasons. It is important to understand your baby, help him, because children are still lonely, weak and defenseless, and it depends only on us whether we can give them a happy childhood.1 0